Social distancing is the new norm, which means getting frisky is, well, a little riskier. But you don't have to let your sex life wilt just because you're doing your part to flatten the curve — you just have to be open to trying something new. Although masturbating with your partner may not be a regular item on most sexual menus, engaging in a little mutual masturbation can up your sexual intimacy. Narrated masturbation can look like a myriad of things: One partner can masturbate while the other watches, both can get it on simultaneously, or they can alternate on and off. Mutual masturbation is also an excellent practice when it comes to bringing couples closer together.
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Many of us masturbate. When I first bought my beloved Doxy mains-powered wand vibrator which rumbles with more strength than the belly of a dragon on hunger strike — I used it so much that I bruised my cooze. While travelling with friends in South East Asia, I pretended to have food poisoning just so I could spend an uninterrupted half-hour self-pleasuring in the hotel bathroom. You might stroke and caress each other as well, but the main aim of the game is to get yourself off, yourself. There is no one better qualified than you to show your lover how you like to be touched.
As women in society, we are often taught to put our needs last, and this comes into the bedroom as well. But the thing is, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in front of our partners creates intimacy and connection. In fact, the things that feel the most vulnerable for us are often the most powerful things we can do. But honestly, with the way these sex experts break it down, it sounds like an empowering way for you to use your own sexy skills to your advantage.
Kelly Gonsalves is a sex educator, relationship coach, and journalist. She received her journalism degree from Northwestern University, and her writings on sex, relationships, identity, and wellness have appeared at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere. A hearty round of applause to all the couples who've thus been having a lot more sex these days because of all the extra time they're spending together.